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    Listening to show up better

    I’ve been painfully aware of the shift going on since exposing the unfortunate murders of Breonna Taylor, Ahmaud Arbery, George Floyd, just to name a few. I’ve seen the following rise of anger and feeling of injustice. I’ve read comments and I’ve seen the reactions and the actions of a lot of people. I’ve heard the many voices rise in protest and I’ve heard the silences. My own voice has remained quiet for the most part. That was purposely done. Because amid all the chaos, I needed to listen. I also have family members in the United States.  Some were directly affected by the events. I have talked to them…

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    The myth of Friends with Benefits

    It was supposed to be simple.  It was supposed to be easy.  After all, even my best friend thought I was looking for the most obvious thing in the world.  “Sex is the easiest thing to find. If that’s all you’re looking for”, she had exclaimed after I told her that my online dating profile stated “No strings attached” in the relationship type. Turns out it’s not that simple, easy or obvious.  A 40-something-year-old woman looking only for sex may seem like a cliché but finding someone to fulfill this need is anything but. After 12 years together, my ex-husband had simply decided he no longer wanted to be part…